You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of us is a separate person with his/her own unique needs and the right to try to meet those needs. I will try to be genuinely accepting of your behavior both when you are trying to meet your needs and when you are having problems meeting your needs.
When you share your problems, I will try to listen acceptingly and understandingly in a way that will facilitate your finding your own solutions rather than depending upon mine. When you have a problem because my behavior is interfering with your meeting your needs, I encourage you to tell me openly and honestly as to how you are feeling. At those times, I will listen and then try to modify my behavior.
However, when your behavior interferes with my meeting my own needs, ...I will tell you as openly and honestly as I can exactly how I am feeling, trusting that you respect my needs enough to listen and then try to modify your behavior.